When Sam asked me to guest post, I was thrilled. Stumbling on her blog was like fate, I mean I live by the motto that everything is better with sprinkles. Am I right?
For those of you that don’t know me, I’m Alex, a 22 year old from the lovely Massachusetts who gave up her ‘wicked’ cool Northern crew to go to college down South in a small town in Virginia. Bring on the southern accents. Just a week after graduation, I began my real world job in DC. When I was trying to think of what to possibly write about that would appeal to readers and be a passionate post, I thought about change.
Change has always had this power to rock my world in more ways than one. No one can say they successfully handle a big change as it comes, it takes a lot of trial and error, patience and a whole lot of healthy coping. Well, as I plan to graduate the third week of May and move to DC to begin my first full time job, I realized a whole lot of change is about to happen. We learned in my psychology class that one of the biggest transitions we face in our life is the point of graduating from college and entering the real world. Great.
So here is how I deal with CHANGE and TRANSITION
1. Rely on supports
I am one lucky girl and I know that. Despite all I have put them through, I have the most supportive and understanding family. A mom who I miss terribly when I am away, a dad who makes me laugh like no other and a younger sister that teaches me balance in life… oh and how could I forget this precious face? Yes, it is hard knowing that ‘home’ is currently a 12-15 hour drive away and my sister’s college is an 8 hour drive away. But physical presence is not the only way to have support. My mom and I have multiple emails and texts whenever something reminds us of one another. It may not be those lovely walks or chats we have together, but it still keeps me grounded. With each scratch ticket my dad sends me through the mail (granted they are for MA not VA so I can’t even cash them…) I am constantly reminded of those supports. Don’t even get me started on the most hilarious , loving, Lebanese extended family who supports me in every way possible. Can’t forget the constant question if I have found my Lebanese boyfriend yet. (Still looking uncle, still looking.) Man my family rocks.
2. Stay connected
I would lie if I didn’t say I am not the best at being that social butterfly. I like my alone time, I like it a lot. My ideal night is home by myself with some tv, my computer and a blanket. Party animal right here. But that doesn’t always help me when I am feeling down, unsure of myself, and plain lonely. I know a huge challenge I will face when I move away from a college campus is the constant people interaction that was forced on me. A lot of student at my school are going to DC after graduation (I mean one of my best friends is moving to DC!). I even have some old high school friends there. That hermit hole I tend to dig, needs to be uprooted especially at the beginning of this transition.
3. Keep routine
I am a creature of habit and though some schedule changes will be made, I know I have to stick to what I know. That means making sure I am taking care of my body. I am allergic to gluten so staying diligent on preparing food that makes my stomach and body feel good is a must. The big key in this is patience. A new routine means an adjustment phase. It is important to remember the chaos and uncertainty will soon feel like an old routine once again. (Fast forward to that please?)
4. Do what you love
For me, this by far is running. I am a distance queen to say the least. I actually get excited to think about running in a new unknown place. While I have been blessed by being able to run in amazing warm weather, beautiful scenery and lovely hills, I knew DC will bring on a whole new running experience. I knew running gives me my ‘me’ time, I run without music, without a Garmin, just me and my watch for how ever long I feel. I just LOVE to run. I am determined to find a routine where my shoes hit the pavement daily. (I am feeling a ton of half marathons to add to my race belt already)
5. Jump in
As I said, I am far from an adventure seeker. I do perfectly well in my home-body ways but my goal for this transition is to branch out. For me, that means trying new groups or activities that are popping up around DC. The opportunities are a lot greater in bustling DC than this small town of Virginia, I need to take advantage of it. I still have this pit feeling in my stomach about making new friends. Eek it is strange because I realize this is the first time since the start of college (another transition period) I have to make new friends. Play with me, anyone?
*Sam’s note: Thanks so much Alex! Change and transition are never easy to deal with, but these are some awesome tips. You’re awesome! <3*